BDSM VS ABUSE!

The biggest factor in BDSM…. The biggest difference between abuse and BDSM! As someone who has experienced abuse and lives a BDSM lifestyle I can 100% say the biggest thing is…

ONE WORD! One word stops all BDSM instantly, no questions asked, no shouting, no judgement, yet no amount of words, none at all will stop abuse. No amount of pleas and no amount of begs.


There is no safe word in abuse, because abusers do not stop!
Another difference between BDSM and Abuse….A Dom would never punish his submissive while angry, ever! The Dom sits, reflects and asks himself why his submissive acted that way! If a punishment is needed he discusses it with the submissive, so she can say then and there NO!


And guess what, if she says the safeword, the punishment does not happen! Abuse does not have a time out, the abuser does not stop and think okay I need to calm down! The abuser does not stop and consider why you’re acting the way you are. The see nothing, but Anger, and they act through their anger!
BDSM IS ABOUT ABUSE, BDSM IS ABOUT INFLICTING PAIN AND HAVING NO CONTROL…..


How wrong is that sentence? All wrong! Abuse is when someone does something to hurt you when you don’t want them to, when you ask them to stop and they keep going, BDSM is not abuse, you have a choice, and it is not done through hate or anger but love!


BDSM does not always inflict pain, so many people are in a BDSM lifestyle that does not have anything to do with pain, nothing at all!

BDSM is about having no control….You see the contract? No you don’t, the submissive has given that Dom a list, and he can only do the things on that list, if she does not feel like it one day, she can say NO! she has a choice, she has control, the submissive is more in control then you think!
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